My Gramps
Everyone keeps telling me what a beautiful memoir I wrote about my grandmother, but what about my grandfather?
Growing up he was pretty much my only true male role model since I was raised by 3 women. When I first started writing this I wanted to do another memoir and write the happy memories I had with my grandfather, but truth be told my grandfather was a combination of good and bad and those things were what made him such a great man.
I think I’m going to start with the thing that my grandpa was widely known for, his drinking habits. I’ve seen this man crash an excavator, fall on his knees and not be able to walk, drink 2 liters of moonshine and still live, and many others. Yet these things didn’t necessarily made him a bad person, I had my first pitcher of beer when I was 5 or 6, I couldn’t even hold it in my hand and I remember a bar filled of old drunken people laugh at me because I was so weak. He smoked the most awful cigarettes in the world, they were called Carpati. I remember asking him to let me try a smoke, IT WAS AWFUL and it’s probably the thing that made me hate cigarettes. At 8 years old I moved to the city with my parents and they both smoked a pack-a-day, still to this day I was never tempted to start smoking. I guess I have to thank my grandpops for showing me how disgusting cigarettes are.
I also remember awesome moments when he would make bows and arrows and swords for me from an old wicker tree that was growing by our house. I think he made dozens of bows hundreds of arrow along with swords and whistles for me. I was pretty lonely growing up since the house where we lived was far from the main road, but I can’t say I was ever bored.
My grandfather was always funny. It didn’t matter that he was drunk, happy , sad or disappointed he always found some way to make a joke out of the situation. I remember some of his last days, he was pretty sick…but it didn’t stop him from flirting and joking with the nurses that were taking care of him in the hospital. He was also very emotional. Every time he was drunk he would tell me how much he cared about me and how he wants only the best for me.
He passed away while I was in training camp with the national team. I can’t say I cried much at his funeral because I knew he was about to pass and I knew I will never let him die in my heart. For as long as I live I’ll always remember my grandfather and I will always talk about how he taught me to make my own “toys/weapons” , gave me my first beer, first cigarette , and told me that the rooster that’s on top of the Hungarian church in my village has to come down